We had to move away and the dogs stayed behind we cant have them right now (thankfully), what I relieve to finally had the bed together as a newly married couple and have quality time together without 2 needy dogs around. I just wish he would be nice and not threaten to throw them out the door when Im not here. Anyhow if you have to rehome the dog, dont just look for a shelter. My SO has had this dog many years before me and my oldest came into the picture which I can understand but I can not understand this lack of control of this dog. Gosh I fear that youre right :-( It does seem like my story is basically an echo of all the other stories. No. Dog ownership is a LOT of work! then eventually praised with her favorite things because her response was very good. At first she was very welcomed and loved by me and my sons. I recently started dating a man who says that my dog is a demanding monster. I have beaten him and it still doesnt work! As long as Im content that equals not only survival but thriving as well. Last weekend I slept over and was going to make us pancakes for breakfast. I cannot even go sit down and relax, because they are all over me, and clawing my skin in their wild excitement. Im not allowed to touch her without she makes some kind of complaint about pain or period issues, no sex since i had a versectomy as she wanted to come off the pill. I guess Im just venting because some of these stories, a lot, are similar to mine. Me and my partner have been together for a year, I have a small dog (puggle) and he has a large dog (Rhodesian Ridgeback) its a rescue dog. My HUSBAND wanted a dog more than I. I like dogs, not love them. Getty Images. I left them there. Her hair gets e v e r y w h e r e. At night we are forced to put her in the kitchen because she crawls up on the couch while we are sleeping, and its obvious because the couch is covered in fur. As far as Im concerned, people who issue unreasonable relationship ultimatums have just committed a relationship deal breaker. Theres no way I would want a dog in the bedroom at all let alone in the same bed, and theres no way I would expect any partner of mine to accept it if I had one. My girlfriend has a Yorkie, which I came into the relationship with her having. I like dogs and understand why other do as well. It isnt about the dog, it is about them being irresponsible. Why even have a relationship with a person if theres the chance you are gonna let them leave or discard them over an animal? So furious! Because she looks sad. She had the right to sit anywhere! Besides an animal will die couple of years but marriage and your spouse will last forever. Just disturbing. Your right.. I dont wish that type of experience on anyone. Your wife needs to understand that first and foremost, hes a puppy, second, they have lots of energy and if the puppy is not being walked, and I mean a use the bathroom and now lets focus on a strong walk, he will chew more. I dont see this with her and her dog. Its hard living with so much spite towards my little ones. This is just the latest example. The dog of course begins peeing everywhere. Sometimes the problem is with your behavior and the husbands thoughts. When I mention these things I instantly become a giant A hole. His dog is emotionally unstable, obnoxious and all around out of control. Ive built them a damn good warn dog house and theyve adapted to the change. She cant scratch at the door to let us know she needs to go out luke our big dog so we thought the doggy for would be perfect since she can just go out when needed. I really despise this dog and she gets all the love and attention. I allow the dog in the basement. The point is: he has no symptoms of allergy, no sneezing or running nose, has taken a test that came out negative, but yet he insists that his back pain is a different kind of allergic reaction and thats why the cat has to go. Pip I agree when the dogs gone what then? Maybe they should do the same to pet lovers. My husband gets upset with me for yelling at the dog when he snarls at me and it drives me crazy! Definitely do not get rid of the dog and keep the bf. Her big thing is getting in the trash which I think every dog will do. I hope she knows she will always be my girl and no man will ever change that. I dont feel like she likes him anymore.. This is, if she had the ONE dog and didnt have it take precedence over her relationship and obsess about it then it wouldnt really be an issue but I ended up disliking the dog(s) because of her attitude with them. NPD is characterized by an individual having an inflated sense of self-importance, lack of empathy for others, and a deep need for excessive attention and/or admiration. I feel a relationship should be a balance.. I grew up with dogs, they will not die from having table scraps! The whole time They were at that shelter I had zero peace of mind. He admitted hed never told me he was frightened of them and thought it wouldnt be an issue, despite knowing how much I wanted a dog. Am I crazy for feeling this way? As far as the relationship I dont like to say it but maybe its best if you did separate, though it hurts to think that way. She is a nervous wreck, greedy, drools when we are eating, steals puggles food, bullies puggle her bed is in the hallway and often puggle stops and cries as is nervous to walk past her, also she sometimes growls at him when we are not in same room (my partner says the puggle cries because he is a whimp and she growls at him because she is jealous of puggle as he gets more attention from me) also she often runs away and pretends not to hear us calling when we take her for walks, sheds so much hair everyday,smells awful even after showering, she rolls herself in other animals mess in the park, jumps into bed or sofa when we are not at home knowing she is no allowed on due tomorrow o weight, smell, and shedding (my partner says he lets her in bed when Im not in, supposedly because he feels sorry for her, why the hell would he tell me such thing knowing I cant stand it ?) So there are now TWO beserk, crazy energetic, demanding, needy, anxious, drooling, stinky dogs that are running the house. Im at a loss. I told him that he needs to come clean up the yard and talk to the landlord himself since his name is still on the lease. So jump to end of the day I just got home from work and the dog is still there. Like you said, there has to be some give and take and thats what youll have to do if you want to be with him and vice versa so you both and can happy. I keep joking saying I want to get rid of her and he hows back hell get rid of me but Im partially not joking. I didnt know this when I met her but I thought she would have gotten more normal since she wasnt alone anymore and telling me she found the man of her dreams and how hard it is to meet someone like me but we would get into arguments about the bulldogs? Hi, I really need help, My boyfriend and I got a puppy a couple of months ago. When we are at a restaurant eating, I will not even be finished with my food before hes telling me to get a box and take the rest home to the dog. I understand. And this is how I feel about my boyfriends pets. Which is why it is so incredibly important that you treat your partner with the love and respect that they deserve. Please be careful. Since we have been together 7 years now, problems have started popping up. He promised me he would take her downstairs to sleep in his parents bed but tonight he just got into bed and started cuddling her and refused to take her down. I wish you happier days . AMEN SISTER! Assistir Sheffield Utd X Tottenham - Ao Vivo Grtis HD sem travar, sem anncios. Something gave way in me and I cried, not for my own losses but that I could hurt an animal that I hadnt tried to ameliorate or understand. That was ages ago and I still fester over it. His dog gets sick also, it throws up every now & then. For example, every time shed drink water, she would use someones legs as a napkin. Also, the dogs never get showered, brushed, nails clipped, they dont get vaccinations or flea treatments. If you dont agree then thats why youre single. Yes I support your dream she says but down deep, I think not. They can marry their damn dogs! If your partner is not over their ex, you may feel their lack of commitment in your relationship. and my husband had never discouraged this. How many times has your human company shown physical aggression and chased away a dog? In fact, if the dog bitten kids or your guest more than once, the situation might be a little bit difficult to handle unless you made enormous of word of honors to correct this behavior. Its absolutely killing me and I dont want to lose either of them :(. His dog has ripped up a very nice carpet I bought with my own money, he has ripped up baby clothes and my own clothes before. Our dog is a little sensitive to certain noises and he probably gets a little bored. Spend the $50-100 to see a trainer. Dogs can be wonderful pets, but people dont realize the WORK that goes into having a well adjusted, healthy dog. It is ridiculous. While her parents dont mind watching her dog, especially since he keeps their dog company, they dont like having him for long periods of time because hes just as needy as their dog. Mainly because I decided to focus on my relationship instead of a small dog problems even if it could be seen as a big one I finally decided not to let it but just let the dog into my heart more each and everyday. He repeatedly says how much he doesnt like him and talks about how its gross when he gets on the furniture. 6. I have a dashchund and my husband is so jealous of him.he only shouts at him when poor soul does not even do anyyhing wrong. Just as I clean after his 12 year old son who is completely capable of picking up after himself. Nails hitting the hardwood floor?? He wont take him to the Vet though. And most of them are not willing to put in the effort it takes to train, walk, and mentally stimulate them. Big dogs are messy and hairy and require even more care and exercise, but there are good dog hair vacuums and grooming helps a lot too. They seem to think that the dogs comfort is supposed to take priority over the comfort of our human guests. In fact, it will lead to so many arguments down the line. I lived on a lake and I got to the point that I said to myself, If the dog and I were drowning, who would he save? I told myself , the dog. No. I am not a dog nut. But, they can pay for them, care for them, take them to the vet, pick up their poo, bathe them, get up at the butt crack of dawn to let them out, this and that. My girlfriend has a dog who Ive been polite with and tend to when Im the only one around. He has 2 dogs. The dog might end up dead if it is given away the death rate at shelters is often shockingly high. She was too in love with her dogs to have a human relationship. Meet a doctor: First and foremost, consult a specialist doctor in order to understand if there is something abnormal going on in the person who has allergies to dogs. Are you serious right now? After being married 6 months I realized he was married to his dog and I was the third wheel. Hes attached himself to this dog to the point were now separated. I still love my husband and know after his furry lover dies, no other dog will be brought into our home or the animal will be granted human status. But that theory originated with Sigmund Freud who also came up with the Oedipus Complex and Penis Envy. He does that too? Dogs are dogs , they should take commands, listen and respect their position and Of course the owner needs to be respectful in their roll as well. they have killed children. I hate continuing to learn my lesson. Me and my son usually enjoy its company. It requires compromise and work. So thats another issue. Hes very protective of our 2 kids, so we are fortunate for that. Yes he takes him outside some. I have a few other tips that you need to be aware of. Pets are not disposable. I wanted to give people here a here a different outlook about pets, Chihuahuas and perhaps love itself. I dont think this is healthy for the dogs and its definitely not healthy for our relationship. raise your kids to love and respect animals but making them a sibling, i think not. I said screw it at one point and kicked him out of the room and shut the door on him. Give them there own bed!!! Dogs are animals! So I am left with training the dog, feeding her, taking her out etc..and Training her has been very hard on me. My wife has a bed for him set up in the shower because since he suffers from extreme anxiety, she said that is his safe place. Both require love and care. Ive been patiently enduring partners jealousy and then there are other days where I have just had it and blow up at him (partner). Honestly, if someone came to me right now and wanted to take him off our hands, we wouldnt object. Since then, wife had brought a greyhound who is miserable to have around and barks at every little noise, including action on the TV during the hockey game, so much so that I crate him when Im watching sports. Pls help!!!! Eight days after moving in, and without consent, she brought a Siberian Husky puppy in and this dog is still not trained. Cat/dog hair comes with having cats/dogs. I was irritated and so was he. An infant is unable to comprehend parental love until their memory begins to prove around the age of 3. anyway something happened to me and her That night. She sounds like my husband as far as not really caring about your feelings. It blows my mind how many people dump their pets for a bad relationship. Im standing firm & want him to go to my therapist with me so perhaps she can explain it to him better than I am. Grew up in isolation with mostly only wild animals and pets. We cant go anywhere do anything that is not about dog. Even then, its not too excited about anything. Firstly I am an animal lover. I must also say we dont live together. There were even ants on the floor from all the dog food that lays on the floor when they eat. Shame on you for being one of those women. They follow me every where and never leave my side. I just changed my entire life for this man and dont want to lose him or my dog advice anyone ??? If my SO does not do something with the cat we are done! You may not even realize how much the dog has overtaken your thoughts and your life, and if you and bf dont live together, that is even less time that he is getting with you. Is there any way we could train my dog to be obediant with my husband just so this will stop. After all, when on walks the dogs sniff at everything and my wife cuddles her dogs and doesnt always wash her hands or face afterwards. New life. I just dont feel comfortable living in a situation like that and having children in that kind of unhealthy and potentially dangerous situation. Grooming sessions: Never skip grooming sessions. I can live with that. You deserve to be listened to, talked to, and even disagreed with. I was beginning to look at my husband quite differently and cry. My Australian shepherd is just a puppy and has done some destructive chewing, which he was properly punished for, but he didnt start this habit until I met my boyfriend. Especially my husband, he is notorious for leaving clothes thrown on floor, leaving tools out over the place, NO NO NO no more PETS! I sleep on the sofa. However, I did not think back then that we would end up living together as I thought we would be forced to split up as my period in Sweden was over. If you hate your spouses animals, you should leave. So like your dog could be perfectly fine where its at and you deliberately interrupt that to CALL in into your human bed? Shes a straight up intelligent manipulative bag. The most obvious reason is the lack of training and attention. I deserve more than this. So I need some advice. potty break schedule. Have a nice day! And even though Ive always been an animal lover, will never own one of my own either. Lord knows the boyfriend wont help, because that would be admitting that she is a gross mess. Its really a crutch. Is he a narcissist since he has isolated you from friends and now your furry friends? If you cant fix that, then yes, you should break up. He is resentful towards me since I have tried to work with him on discipline. The hamster is in my room. She recently left on a trip where she was gonna be gone for days with her Mother and Sister. To say I should disregard so many years of love and affection because I didnt do my due diligence to makes sure she didnt sleep with her dog seems ridiculous. They cannot make plans with you like a person can. I was wondering if youve found any good solutions.? I know its a hopeless situation because at the end of the day, I love my boyfriend and I do know I want to spend my life with him. Tell your boyfriend to suck a dick and die. Then I tell myselffreak! Let me remind you, he does not pee in the house and he does not go out any more than normal. We have already discussed 15 reasons why your husband/boyfriend may want to get rid of the dog with 15 possible solutions. problem is im starting to act violent towards her dogs. Not to sound morbid but when the dog passes things will be easier and just dont get another. His pee smells horrible and I recently learned that the smell of wolf urine is so strong that people buy it off the internet to ward off raccoons and possums. I am a fairly good dog trainer, (my own opinion) but puppies need time to grow, to explore, and to get into things, that they shouldnt, in order to learn. My husband lost his job and soon after we moved next to his parents and his attitude towards the cat changed. , ..but my man dont even ask about mine either, or say he wants to visit them or anything and that makes me sad cause im alwasy over there i just dont know what to do!!!! Im at a loss to what I should do for the dog and my wifeplease comment. Its never easy to say goodbye to a pet. This dog is very affectionate with everybody, including kids, other dogs, cats, he doesnt even chase squirrels. So over time, I became very resentful and frustrated! Then he started joking about how sometimes hell wake up with the bed covered in fur, but that he needs his Mesa cuddles and that it would diminish his happiness and quality of life if she were to no longer be allowed in the bedroom. Itll never work and itll be a fight every day of your life. Not today. I am married 4 years and must admit that i have never had pets. It sounds like your husband has not taken the needed time to properly train his dog. If you argue like that before marriage, it will get much worse! Never for one second did we assume our dogs were our children. I am so sorry that so many are having a terrible time with their pets and partners. It was fine until the dog got older and bigger. I take my dog for two walks a day, he lets his dog out into his backyard. The thing is, i told her hes ok at the foot of the bed, i dont mind him on the bed if hes there and i had been telling her for 3 months to start training him but she jokingly would refuse to do so. No amount of communication with my husband has resolved this issue and i refuse to compromise over my health. Best to form relationships with people who share your passion. She stays in the basement due to hip dysplasia. 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